How To Plan Your Wedding As A Team

 [Originally at 6 Tips for Planning Your Wedding as a Team of Two by Raven McMillan]

The more involved your other half is in wedding planning, the more likely you may butt heads. If you don’t have a tell-me-where-to-show-up kind of partner, it’s a good idea to put a few systems in place to help keep the peace while wedding planning side by side. Below are a few tips and expert insights on how to plan a wedding with a hands-on partner—without the fight.

Create a Wedding Email 

Set up a wedding-specific email account so you both stay in the loop with vendor communication and meetings. “This will make it easier for you to prioritize tasks that need to get done and keep it separate from your personal/work emails so nothing gets lost in the shuffle,” shares Kristie Meluso of KMEvents. You can set a plan to check it together every evening at a certain time and go over what needs to be done. That way you also avoid one partner marking an email “read” before the other has seen it.  In addition to setting up a wedding-specific email, you should also create a shared calendar. That way both partners can stay in the know on upcoming meetings, deadlines, and more.

Paper Your Priorities

Individually, make a prioritized list of your three most important aspects of the wedding vision. When you come to a stand-off on a certain decision, the partner with that priority highest on their list should be responsible for the final call. “This could be helpful if having a disagreement,” says Kate Caffrey, Event Coordinator at The Event Group. “If the groom has food as one of his top priorities, he’ll get the final say over deciding on something like what the final hors d’oeuvres will be during cocktail hour if they can’t come to an agreement.”

Plan by Numbers

You may have already tackled the budget talk, but once you’ve assigned roles, you’ll want to agree on a budget for each individual component of the wedding. The catering budget may be set at $15,000, flowers at $6,000, and so on. “A lot of arguing happens during wedding planning because the bride or the groom wants to spend more money on what's important to them,” says Lynn Goldberg, founder of Ms. Wedding Planner. “So, getting specific budgeting numbers early on avoids problems later. That way if the bride is choosing the flowers, she knows not to go over $6000. If the groom picks food under $15,000, the bride will probably be OK with it.”

On the topic of finances, JoAnn Gregoli, owner of Elegant Occasions by JoAnn Gregoli, also advises that co-planning couples set up a joint bank account strictly to manage the wedding expenses. “Only use this account to pay deposits and the vendors; this way you both know what the account holds and there will be no problems in keeping track of spending.”

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Wedding planning is definitely a two way street. And in our experience, we’ve seen weddings go best when both parties are involved in planning. It’s a day to celebrate the both of you! Also, planning is absolutely something your friendly DJ company can help with.